Frequently Asked Questions

For me, in my practice, I don’t refer to myself as a "psychic medium," because it’s confusing and, in modern culture, has a bad connotation thanks to Hollywood - although "psychic" seems to be a catch-all for anyone with sensory-perceptive abilities. But, all mediums are psychic and truly, it’s all energy, so the psychic component is in the energy of the reading (between the medium and client) whether one uses the word or not. I just prefer Evidential Medium to clarify the type of mediumship that I practice based on the mediumship taught by my teachers/mentor. Perhaps in the future I will change that, but that is where I am with the label today. 

The clairs are the pathways or avenues through which we recognize the information that we receive from spirit. Each is attached to one of our senses and through each, we receive these bursts of information. During a reading, we have an awareness of a smell, feeling, visual, taste, etc. from one of our senses and that is the information which we offer to the client. 

Clairvoyance: clear seeing 

Clairaudience: clear hearing 

Claircognizance: clear knowing

Clairsentience: clear feeling

Clairgustance: clear tasting

Clairalience: clear smelling

In evidential mediumship, EVERY piece of evidence given must be validated by the client and the reading follows a very simple and specific format.  I don’t interpret the evidence ever. It is up to the client to interpret the evidence. I simply give it as I receive it from the spirit communicator. Sometimes I clarify the evidence that is given if it’s not understood, by describing how it makes me feel or how I see it, but I do not interpret it for the client. If they don’t understand the reference or evidence, I go back to spirit to clarify and I reword it so the client can validate it. 

Evidential mediumship is based on surrender to spirit, moving ego out of the way and (if needed) tight, disciplined mechanics which, once employed, allow the evidence to be clarified. The surrender process allows the information/evidence to flow and more clearly helps the client to understand what is happening throughout the reading and, ultimately, to leave no doubt in their mind that they are in the presence of their loved one. This gives the client assurance that, when the messages come through at the end of the reading, that they are absolutely from their loved one.

I always connect to the spirit communicator with whom a client is hoping to connect unless they ask for a general reading, then I bring through whomever is in my awareness for them.

This is completely subjective. It is up to the individual. If the prospect of communicating with your loved one through a medium might make you feel profoundly sad, I would suggest waiting a bit until the grief is not so heavy. Everyone grieves so differently and this is attributable to many factors:  the circumstances surrounding their passing, whether or not their passing was expected or unexpected, whether or not you or others felt you had closure or the opportunity to say what you needed to say or to say goodbye, etc. When you feel you are at relative peace, then I would seek a reading. If you're not sure, make contact and we can discuss the process if that helps, but I feel we know when we are ready and I honor that in all who inquire.

Spirit is highly intelligent. The kind of intelligent we cannot wrap our mind around. Imagine how they know the perfect song to send us at the right time - a song with lyrics that tell a story that you know they are trying to express to you, a book that draws our awareness, a butterfly that lands on our hand, a long-lost item that suddenly appears in the middle of a table seemingly from out of nowhere, etc. Spirit knows and sees and feels all. They are their highest form of love and light and truth. They know what it is you need to hear. They will tell me what is needed for your highest good, but they will also sometimes express information you may not be expecting. My agreement with spirit is if they give it to me, I will say it to you. I am merely their voice for you to receive communication from them. If there is anything or any subject you don't wish to be expressed, I would be clear about that to them or to me before the reading. Also, spirit may or may not take me to their passing. It is entirely up to them. They may tell me a few details as validation, but passing is often revisiting a trauma, so they will know if they should not mention it to you. 

Loved ones in spirit will NOT give me passcodes to phones, tell me where their money is hidden, confess to things they did not share while they were living, and they will not give me information that you cannot validate. 

Mediumship is not a gift. It's not something that only a lucky few are able to do. It's not something that you're just "born with." Okay, I take that back. It actually is! But everyone is born with it, not just some of us! Mediumship, or spirit communication, is a birthright!! But, I have worked very hard for (as of August 2022) the past 20 months, so nearly 2 years attending lectures, classes, practice circles, development circles, workshops, mentoring, and  pouring money into my development. There is much for free, but much as well that is not and if you want a mentor worth their salt, they won't be free! The money I earn is split between household expenses and my development. 

So you can connect to your own loved ones in spirit, the same way I can connect to mine. And you can connect to mine as well! It's not a gift - don't let anyone tell you that. That is saying they have something special that you do not and it's simply untrue. You have the same ability and opportunity to grow and develop your mediumship that I have or that my teachers and mentors had or have. But, remember that I'm already in nearly two years and will always consider myself a student of mediumship. I will always be "in development" because I am not arrogant enough to ever think I've learned all there is to know! Also, different teachers and mentors have different philosophies and beliefs. It's best to learn them all and to take what you need or want from that. 

If you are interested in starting to connect to your loved ones, look for links on my resources page to get you started!

I would want to know how they work. How do they receive information from spirit? What type of mediumship do they offer? There are many types of mediumship. I would want to know if what they offer will fulfill your expectations. Do they have reviews that you can read from people for whom they've read? What is their process or format for the sessions? How do you participate in the in the session - what is expected of you? How long have they been doing mediumship and how did they even decide to become a medium? I would also want to know how they learned to do mediumship readings. Are they self-taught or do they have a formal education of some kind in mediumship development? How many readings, approximately, have they done? Why are they a medium and what do they see as their role in mediumship?

Yes and no. I often have people, deep in grief, reach out and ask me if I have messages from their loved ones. This is so difficult because I understand how it feels to be in the thick of grief. I've been there too. What I should explain is that mediums are not an open channel wherein spirit can drop in and give information to their loved ones. Most mediums turn their "reception" off when they are not working and turn it on when they are in a session doing a reading. The elements necessary for a reading are the client/sitter, the spirit communicator, and the medium, who is the relaying the information from the spirit communicator. Every session I hold is with someone who has lost someone they love and they, too, are looking for validation that their loved one is still with them. All of my clients receive messages as part of their reading. If you want to connect with your loved one, please schedule a session so we can connect energetically and reconnect with your loved one for healing. 

Everyone has expectations when going into their reading. You are paying for this service, so you are invested in the process and, naturally, you will want to connect with your loved one in spirit and receive validation through evidence that your loved one is still here and able to communicate and give you messages that they are alright. These are expectations we mediums anticipate clients will want to receive. The expectations we do not always anticipate are the very specific pieces of information clients bring to the energy of the reading, hoping it will come through as validation. Clients will ask for PIN codes to their loved ones phones, names, dates, mention of specific items or memories, etc. I just want to say that this puts a lot of pressure on the medium, even energetically. We can feel or even see in your energy that there is something precise you are awaiting. These items may or may not come through; however, I would not bring that expectation into the reading. Let it surprise you if it happens to come through, but be open to the beautiful unfoldment of the spirit communicator's story. If you're waiting for specifics, you may miss a lot of important information and possibly some things you've long forgotten. I just ask that you enter our session with an open heart and open mind to receive what it is that your loved one in spirit wishes to communicate to you. 

I've heard many people say that children's spirits will come through with an older loved one, often a grandparent or great-grandparent. I think this is a measure of comfort for parents to hear; however, I have not had children come through with others. When I ask for more information on this, they will confirm there are others around them, but they do come through on their own, even if they are a baby or a toddler. Children in spirit are infinite intelligence, the same as adults, because they are the highest, purest form of themselves. Most children come through in a manner typical of how they were in life and are really unique with their communication and ability to convey evidence, shared memories, messages, etc. They also tend to bounce around topics quite a bit and, if they do touch on their passing, I have found they don't like to talk much about it, only enough for validation, which they often will give and then return to another subject, then go back in for another piece. It's evident they don't want to linger on their passing and I feel this is simply that they don't want their parents to be sad. 

One thing about spirits of children that I cannot emphasize enough is their infinite intelligence. They will use words, philosophies, phrases, and intelligence way over the physical age when their life ended in order to communicate what it is they want to express. Remember that this is the soul of the child, not the earthly child who will remain forever an infant or a toddler or an adolescent or teen in the minds and hearts of their loved ones. They will bring forward evidence to validate who they are, but their messages may be surprisingly advanced because their intelligence is now limitless. We are the only limitation - our understanding of their communication.